Hello, my name is Estelle Mutum, founder of The Sunshine Club, Certified Grief Recovery Specialist and Life Coach.
I am passionate about people living life to their full potential and that’s because I truly know that “life is too short and life is for living”.
I took the decision back in 2011 to leave the corporate rat race. I then went on to set up my own business consultancy practice, all was going well, and then in 2017, in the space of 7 months, I lost three important people in my life. My grandma to dementia, my friend to cancer and my partner to suicide, which in turn led to 12 months and a coroners Inquest. The whole ordeal was gut wrenching and tore my world apart.
This created a turning point in my life, as I asked those life questions of why? How can I get myself through this? Feelings of guilt, deep sadness and emotional turmoil over took me, What is life all about? What do I do next? What do I want for me? What do I want to do with the rest of my life? What will my future be like? to the point where my body crashed under the pressure of long-term stress, conflicting thoughts and an intense emotional state.
I remember, when my body crashed in back in December, telling myself I need to pull myself together as I am on a slippery slope.
My first decision was to take responsibility for myself and what was happening to me. Whilst I was grieving, I felt that life had overtaken me, I was drifting, almost in paralyses, with the push and pull of daily life and not really taking control of what I want for me!
I always remember sat one day thinking “Estelle get a grip, you need to move forward with your life” …But the real question was HOW! How do I do that? How do I stop the sadness and the hurt? How do I take control of my emotions? How do I go back to living a fulfilled and happy life, which felt like a distant dream that could never happen.
Then my inquisitive mind kicked into HOW, and I started my journey researching and putting into practice, what I needed to do to get ‘ME’ back on track as a functioning human being, and then how do I move forward with my life.
These practices are now here for you too.
I have researched, tried and tested a lot of things, I have found through grief recovery a way to “complete” on my losses of 2017 , which has enabled me to be at peace from such a traumatic time, which has then led into being ‘complete’ with other losses in my life, which included, my mum, who died when I was only 25, and my divorce at 38. Throughout this time, I have also been auditing my life, taking decisions about what I want for me in terms of relationships, finances, career, health and wellbeing and so much more! Developing these further and now offering them to others, because I wholeheartedly believe and know they work!
And, as part of my “mid-life clarity” at 49 ( I refuse this to be a mid-life crisis!), I have taken myself above and beyond my own personal life goals and ambitions, as I have always wanted to learn to sail, but a brief encounter to an advert on YouTube, led me to a presentation in Leeds on CLIPPER ROUND THE WORLD YACHT RACE. Never sailed before, so I applied, went through an assessment and by astonishment I was accepted to participate in the 2019/2020, CLIPPER ROUND THE WORLD YACHT RACE CREW for Leg 7 Seattle to New York yacht race, quite an achievement even if I do say so myself. This is one of the biggest endurance challenges of the natural world and even more so for a first time sailing amateur!!!
But why do this…I often get asked, why bring the Sunshine Club to the world?
Firstly, I have learn’t through my own experience that we rarely do see the suffering of others who have experienced loss/grief. The funeral is over, everyone goes back to normal and the expectation is the griever will slip back into how things were before, when in fact, mentally, physically and spiritually getting over their loss is probably one of the hardest things they have to do, because no-one tells us how, we are never taught, but advice and views/opinions of others as to ‘how’ is thrusted upon us, which is often unhelpful, inappropriate and haphazard. I found Grief Recovery and gained tremendous peace and completion from loss and now I have trained as a Grief Recovery Specialist so I can support others with the additional value that I now have the tools, to make it happen whilst helping others.
Secondly, the strapline for The Sunshine Club is “Life is for Living, So Live it!” and this is my mantra, this one sentence has pulled me through so much and empowered me to live my life for me. Yes, that’s right, I have empowered myself to live my life for me, this is not selfish, I have one of the biggest, kindest, caring hearts I know! This is me acknowledging that I am probably more than half way through my life and I want, can and choose to make a difference.
This is why the Sunshine Club has been created, so I can help as many people as I can get through their loss/losses so that they can live better, more peaceful lives. Did you know that there are over 40+ life event losses where we can experience grief and loss, it’s not just death, divorce. And the Grief Recovery can be applied to all of these.
Come and join me on the journey of GRIEF RECOVERY, start healing your heart and engineering your own life for YOU, today.